- Don't make your search for a relationship the center of
your life. Concentrate on activities you enjoy, your
career, health, and relationships with family and friends. When you
focus on keeping yourself happy, it will keep your life balanced
and make you a more interesting person when you do meet someone
special.
- Remember that first impressions aren't always
reliable. Especially when it comes to Internet dating,
people don't always accurately portray themselves. Regardless of
where or how you meet someone, though, it always takes time to
really get to know that person. You have to experience being with
someone in a variety of situations, some good and some not so good,
before you really know him or her. For example, how well does this
person hold up under pressure when things don't go well or when
they're tired, frustrated, or hungry?
- Be honest about your own flaws and
shortcomings. Everyone has a flaw-or several-and, for a
relationship to last, you want someone to love you for the person
you are, not the person you'd like to be, or the person he or she
thinks you have the potential to become. In many cases, what you
consider a flaw may actually be something another person finds
quirky and appealing. By being honest and shedding all pretense,
you'll encourage the other person to do the same, which can lead to
a fulfilling relationship.
- Invest in a vertical relationship before you invest in
a horizontal relationship.Don't be too quick to make a
relationship sexual as it often becomes harder to develop a good
vertical relationship afterwards. Even though it can be difficult
in this day and age, try to take your time to get to know someone
first. It will only lead to a more satisfying sexual relationship
down the road.