Remember that finding the right person is just the beginning of
the journey, not the destination. In order to move from casual
dating to a committed, loving relationship, you need to nurture
that new connection. It's a process that requires time, effort, and
a genuine interest in the other person as a whole. It also requires
an openness to compromise and change.
All relationships change over time. You'll change over time,
your partner will change, and so will both of your needs and
expectations. What you want from a relationship at the beginning
may be very different from what you and your partner want from that
same relationship a few months or years down the road.
For a romantic relationship to blossom into lasting love you
need to be willing and able to:
- Invest in the relationship. No relationship
will run smoothly without regular attention, so ask yourself if you
are willing to invest the time and effort into this relationship.
Often, after the initial blush of romance has faded, couples switch
off from one another, but the more you invest in each other, the
more you grow to care. Find things you enjoy doing together and
commit to spending the time to do them, even when you're busy or
stressed.
- Communicate openly. Is your partner genuinely
interested in your thoughts and feelings? Are you comfortable
expressing your own opinions, thoughts, and feelings around this
person? Are you playful, open, and able to laugh together and enjoy
each other's company? Your partner is not a mind reader, so tell
him or her how you feel. When you both feel comfortable expressing
your needs, fears, and desires, the bond between you will become
stronger and deeper.
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Resolve conflict by fighting
fair. Some couples talk things out quietly, while others
may raise their voices and passionately disagree. No matter how you
approach the differences in your relationship, the important thing
is that you aren't fearful of conflict. You need to feel safe to
express the things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and
to be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation, or
insisting on being right.
- Accept change. Every relationship changes and
goes through good and bad periods, but overall a healthy
relationship should continue to be good for you. It should bring
the best out in you and should not only make you happier, but also
make you a better person: kinder, more empathic, and more
generous.