When I speak of separating I mean
in the literal sense as well as the mental. The first thing we must
do in order to arise from difficult circumstances is detach
ourselves at once from whatever the situation is. If the source of
your issue is coming from within your house, leave. Go for a long
walk, stay a night at a friend's house, do something to physically
get away from the source of the negativity. If the source of the
issue is at work, take a vacation, if you used up all of those days
use your lunch hour and get as far away from your job as possible,
take smoke breaks even though you don't smoke. Just get away!
When you do find a way to escape
from the source of the issue, the very first thing that you must do
is focus on something else completely. If you are artistic, draw or
look at some artwork, read a book, exercise, meditate, do anything
but think about the situation that is at hand. This will help you
in two ways. It will downplay, even if for a few minutes, the
urgency of the situation and it will also allow you to set a mind
frame that, once you leave that location, wherever it maybe, the
problem stays there.
We all need an escape, hence the reason why major vacation
locations are always overbooked and overpriced. Your break,
however,doesn't have to be on an exotic island, it can be a drive
in your car for an hour or a walk in the park. In order for you to
realize that you are not your problems, it is very important to
detach. Although you may play a major role in your current
situation or circumstance, realize that you yourself are more than
your set of circumstances. Focus on other positive aspects of your
being and allow yourself a mental escape. Besides,most of our
issues will be there when we return and we will deal with them
then.