What is strap-on sex? Strap-on sex is the penetration of a partner, vaginally or anally, using a dildo or vibrating sex toy which is secured into a compatible harness. The harness is worn around the waist and over the genital zone of one partner, with the dildo protruding from the front which is then used to penetrate the happy recipient. Strap-on sex (sometimes known as pegging) is enjoyed by many adults and within various types of relationship; for example, lesbian/bisexual sex, in BDSM as part of FemDom, or to help a penis-owner pleasure their partner in different ways. There are many types of harness available to help you achieve your sexual pleasure aims - welcome to my big guide to strap-on sex harnesses. The main things that set strap-on sex harnesses apart are: the material they're made from, how they adjust to fit to wearer, and how the penetrating toy affixes to it. There are leather, faux leather, nylon, neoprene and fabric harnesses, and dildos may attach to the front by way of an O-ring with popper fastenings, or a vacuum suction plug, or the dildo may simply be an integral part of the harness. The traditional strap on sex harness was (unsurprisingly) a straps style set-up, with a front panel where the toy would be attached, but in recent years there have been a number of 'pant' styles. These are briefs with a specially designed area at the front where the dildo is placed and firmly secured into.

Although much of the pleasure focus in strap-on sex seems to be on the recipient, it would be a mistake to assume the 'giver' gets nothing out of the session at all. For one thing, many strap-on sex harnesses feature an internal pocket for a vibrating bullet to be housed, providing stimulation to the wearer. Some strap-on dildos have a vulva-stimulating base for the same reason. It's not all about physical stimulation, either; click to read a fantastic article about how a woman can get pleasure from pegging.I'd love to bust the myth that strap-on sex is purely for one type of relationship. As mentioned at the outset, there's plenty of pleasure to be enjoyed by involving strap-ons into your couple's fun regardless of your particular type of relationship. It's not 'just for lesbians', 'just for submissive guys' or 'just for butt sex lovers'.While we're on the subject: enjoying anal stimulation does not mean you're gay, guys.Related: Beginner's Guide To Anal Sex Toys and Butt Plugs.

If you have a butt (oh look, that's everyone) then you might enjoy anal stimulation. And you might not - but how will you ever know unless you try? Anal stim is simply another form of anatomical stimulation, with zero reflection or bearing on your gender or sexuality. Open up your mind -and elsewhere, but don't forget the lube. I hope you enjoy my big guide to strap-on sex harnesses, and don't forget, my big guide to strap-on sex dildos will follow next month.
Vac-U-Lock by Doc Johnson has been around for decades - I started my own strap-on harness collection with one of their Lucid Dreams harnesses. The Vac-U-Lock strap-on accessories are slightly different to most other harness styles, in that the dildos attach via suction to a plug.

Top Tip: Talc or lube the plug first to make the dildo much easier to remove after use.Vac-U-Lock silicone dildos are manufactured by Doc Johnson, but can sadly be hard to find through adult retailers -especially in the UK. Doc Johnson make the lower end budget styles of their Vac-U-Lock compatible dildos from their own blended material, which you may see described as UR3 or UltraSKYN. These are simply marketing names for blends of TPE, which is a porous material.I like the Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock strap-on harness styles and the vacuum dildo suction method, I just wish the silicone compatible dildos were easier to source.