On this one, if you don't have a wedding coordinator and hired help, you may have to use the help of other people. And these people will likely also be guests at your wedding. Take advantage of volunteers, try to set up well before the ceremony starts - like the day before, a good time to use your wedding party - if you can, and provide food or refreshments of some kind. Get organized ahead of time so that when people come to help set up or tear down, you can assign jobs to people and no one is standing around wondering what to do. If you are not good with giving directions - or, in the case of after the wedding, you won't be there - hand this responsibility to someone else, i.e. your mother or your mother-in-law. Lists work great for things like this. And then, include a "thanks for helping us" in your thank you cards. It also helps the setting up process to keep decorations simple, but do what you like in that case.